At What Point Have You Crossed The Line?

DJ and I made one commitment when we began our journey on the playing field of fuck. We would not allow our desires to put us off the righteous path.

In other words, we would remain emotionally faithful, and if either one of us felt otherwise, our descent into flesh fantasy would end.

I am a simple creature. I can see things black and white, and I believe most "grey" areas are inventions of the non-committal mind. Especially in matters of the heart. I have absolutely no desire to become emotionally involved with another person. To put it in nauseatingly cliche terms, DJ has my heart. Yes, I do have sex with other people. So does he. But we operate as a team. Neither one of us wishes to have any adventure without the presence of the other. The turn on lies inside of the teamwork. Where he and I both are observing each other giving and receiving pleasure. It would not be the same without that element.

So for us the line is clear. We know where to stand.

Does everyone?

Polyamory and swinging are different. However, the line is blurred in some instances. We have met couples that mingle in a vanilla setting just as often as they do the swinging scene. Their kids hang out, have parties, BBQ's. We even talked with a couple who told us they went to a party where the adults were upstairs getting randy while the kids were downstairs playing X-Box (their kids included). For us, that crosses the line. We are not slaves to our sexual impulses, we ensure we have a sitter before arranging a greek orgy.

We love bed notching swingers, and aren't afraid to admit it. For us, swinging is sexual gratification and nothing more. We have no problem with a one night rendezvous, as long as we all see eye to eye. Have we made friends this way? Of course. Diablo and Angel for example. We met on the swinging scene, but we enjoy their friendship as much as we do the sexual side of things. We do not see them often, they are geographically challenged :), but we would have no problem spending time with them in a platonic sense.

There are quite a few swingers that want the more "polyamorous" relationship with their regular couples. Take their children places together, spend holidays together, and sometimes even move in together (stay tuned for my next piece "Night Of The Living Unicorn" OR why you should NEVER invite your unicorn to live with you)

The husband of a swinger couple I had chatted with described what he looked for in couples. He said that him and his wife preferred true soul mate friendships. He wanted to date the other couple, get close to them. He told me that one of their FWB's kids calls him "uncle." To me, that's a little creepy.

We had played with two couples where the women were best friends. It kind of takes the fun out of the game when plans are made before hand because two of the players on opposing teams are in cahoots.....you know what I mean? Then when someone gets mad at the other.......all hell breaks loose.

Too much for me.

We are here for the sex, it's as simple as that.

Kisses
Betty Rocket

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