Sociological attitudes toward non-monogamous relationships dictate what we should, as a norm, consider to be proper thinking. Husbands will rule their wives, women should serve happily and gracefully, and no one gets to fuck anyone else. Period.
So why the propensity to "share" your wife? Why do so many men get a sexual charge out of the idea of their woman being ravaged by another male?
There Is A Primal Reason - In our most basic of forms, we are machines driven to reproduce. Every blood vessel in our bodies contribute to the sexual arousal necessary to pro-create. Inside every woman is the ability to be fertilized and inside every man is the ability to plant the seed. Take two men and one woman. Competition.
Men have a physiological response to the idea that there is another contender for the egg of their mate. In 2004, researchers at the University Of Chicago published a report stating that "sexual competition among males is evident at the molecular level, as well as at behavioral and physiological levels." In primate species with promiscuous females, a protein that controls the viscosity of semen in the males is more evident. Meaning that even on a genetic level, the male of the species is in constant competition for the prize of a female's womb. Along with many studies in evolutionary biology regarding the sperm competition and the physiological effects of sexual competition in male primates, scientists have proven time and time again that cock-envy is genetic. The bottom line is this, when a man is faced with a sexually promiscuous (hotwife) woman, their sperm production increases, their erections are harder and longer lasting, and sexual arousal is at peak. It's science....plain and simple.
BDSM - The theme of humiliation and submission is prominent in the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle. The scene is sometimes one where the wife will take dates with other men, and return with stories of what she has done. This sometimes concentrates on how much better the other man was sexually, how much bigger his penis was, and even some wives come to their marital bed with the evidence of their encounter (i.e. creampies) Another common arrangement is the encounter takes place in front of the husband. The "bull" or "stud" is usually different in some way (a recurring theme is BBC) and their penis size is usually considerably larger than the husband's. The wife will then copulate with the "bull" with the husband in the room, occasionally commenting on how much better her "bull" is and how much larger his penis is. Some cuckolds enjoy preparing their wife for their upcoming "date", either dressing her or grooming her. Others often submit to the "bull", attending to his needs as well. In the most extreme cases, the cuckold is denied any sexual contact with his wife, but is the willing audience to all her indiscretions. On the flip side, the wife is the Sub and she is in essence "prostituted" by her Dom husband. Part of this is our reasons for the hotwife lifestyle we enjoy on occasion. In our scenes, I am property and he has the license to loan me out as he pleases. He has fantasies of gang bangs, simulated rapes, and men with large cocks. This satisfies the Dom in him, exerting his will over me by designing and initiating the encounter. This also satisfies the Sub in me, pushing my limits, and allowing him all the control. Of course, I am in complete control at all times, having final veto power over every session. I have seen slave contracts drawn up for this type of cuckold lifestyle, it is very common in the BDSM scene.
Used Pussy - Tom Paine over at Polyamorously Perverse took the words right out of my mouth. Some men are turned on by the prospect of a woman who was rode hard and put up wet. DJ falls under this category. He enjoys playing with me while I am fucking another man, but his true motivation for allowing me this pleasure is what he gets when the "bull" leaves. He doesn't want me to shower, he doesn't want me to change, he just wants to throw me down and reclaim his territory. Primal instinct at it's best.
So why the propensity to "share" your wife? Why do so many men get a sexual charge out of the idea of their woman being ravaged by another male?
There Is A Primal Reason - In our most basic of forms, we are machines driven to reproduce. Every blood vessel in our bodies contribute to the sexual arousal necessary to pro-create. Inside every woman is the ability to be fertilized and inside every man is the ability to plant the seed. Take two men and one woman. Competition.
Men have a physiological response to the idea that there is another contender for the egg of their mate. In 2004, researchers at the University Of Chicago published a report stating that "sexual competition among males is evident at the molecular level, as well as at behavioral and physiological levels." In primate species with promiscuous females, a protein that controls the viscosity of semen in the males is more evident. Meaning that even on a genetic level, the male of the species is in constant competition for the prize of a female's womb. Along with many studies in evolutionary biology regarding the sperm competition and the physiological effects of sexual competition in male primates, scientists have proven time and time again that cock-envy is genetic. The bottom line is this, when a man is faced with a sexually promiscuous (hotwife) woman, their sperm production increases, their erections are harder and longer lasting, and sexual arousal is at peak. It's science....plain and simple.
BDSM - The theme of humiliation and submission is prominent in the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle. The scene is sometimes one where the wife will take dates with other men, and return with stories of what she has done. This sometimes concentrates on how much better the other man was sexually, how much bigger his penis was, and even some wives come to their marital bed with the evidence of their encounter (i.e. creampies) Another common arrangement is the encounter takes place in front of the husband. The "bull" or "stud" is usually different in some way (a recurring theme is BBC) and their penis size is usually considerably larger than the husband's. The wife will then copulate with the "bull" with the husband in the room, occasionally commenting on how much better her "bull" is and how much larger his penis is. Some cuckolds enjoy preparing their wife for their upcoming "date", either dressing her or grooming her. Others often submit to the "bull", attending to his needs as well. In the most extreme cases, the cuckold is denied any sexual contact with his wife, but is the willing audience to all her indiscretions. On the flip side, the wife is the Sub and she is in essence "prostituted" by her Dom husband. Part of this is our reasons for the hotwife lifestyle we enjoy on occasion. In our scenes, I am property and he has the license to loan me out as he pleases. He has fantasies of gang bangs, simulated rapes, and men with large cocks. This satisfies the Dom in him, exerting his will over me by designing and initiating the encounter. This also satisfies the Sub in me, pushing my limits, and allowing him all the control. Of course, I am in complete control at all times, having final veto power over every session. I have seen slave contracts drawn up for this type of cuckold lifestyle, it is very common in the BDSM scene.
Used Pussy - Tom Paine over at Polyamorously Perverse took the words right out of my mouth. Some men are turned on by the prospect of a woman who was rode hard and put up wet. DJ falls under this category. He enjoys playing with me while I am fucking another man, but his true motivation for allowing me this pleasure is what he gets when the "bull" leaves. He doesn't want me to shower, he doesn't want me to change, he just wants to throw me down and reclaim his territory. Primal instinct at it's best.
Do you fall under any of these categories? If not, what is your opinion on why?
Kisses
Betty
4 comments:
:)Oh so many reasons, but then you already know that. I love the idea, the thought, and visual when I can, and I love when she returns to me. The I love the scent, the arousal, the lust, the taste, the feel, the sex and the love.
We are definitely of the rode hard put away wet persuasion!
Actually, the main reason we do it the voyeurism or that fancy word for liking to watch. It’s like watching a porno movie but it’s live and with the one you love. Nothing turns us on more than seeing our love enjoying sex. So, in a way it’s the ultimate porno movie.
Speaking of porno’s, why do they stop the shot after the wife and her lover finish? Why don’t they ever show the great time the husband and wife usually have together afterwards?
Like they say in the history business, its "overdetermined." Meaning, there are many reason why and they overlap. I have mused on this many times, and I think there are real, evolutionary programs that make this a hoot for everyone involved. And its the hooting we all really go for. I like the confession, the surrender, and hopefully some trophy, a pic or sound recording to remember the moment. Flexibility is what makes us special, and humans can get off on a lot of stuff,as long as they don't get too full of themselves.
Great blog, btw. Sorry for this way off timing entry.
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